Asking for Help

When I got up this morning I decided it was long over due to get a blog post up. I knew we were over due, but I had no idea that it had been over a month since our last post.  We promised ourselves that we would put up a post at least once a week.  I’m pretty sure we have failed on that front.  Oh well.  Let’s try that again.

“Why the delay”, you ask.  Well, the short answer is life, man.  We have just passed the mid point in Carrie’s treatment plan.  The last two cycles of treatment have been real doozy.  Each time we go through a cycle we make some adjustments and we straighten our backs and we say “I got this!”.  Chemo says, “Really?  Then try this!”  And we start over again.

Asking for Help

Several weeks ago Carrie’s mom decided that she’s going to stay with us for the rest of the treatment plan.  So that happened.  She’s moved into the spare bedroom.  She’s been helping out around the house, helping Carrie get around when she’s just not feeling well, and taking her to her doctors appointments.  She’s been a tremendous help and I’m really glad she’s here.

The thing is, we really needed help.  This past month has definitely gotten harder and I could not have done everything I needed too and still met my work commitments.  Perhaps it’s a flaw in my personality or maybe it’s just a human trait, but I don’t think I know when I need assistance until after I needed it.  Do you find that is true?

So a few things that I have learned over the month.

  • At some point in a chemo treatment plan, you will need help with something.
  • It’s ok to ask for help.
  • It’s ok to accept it.  People want to be there.  It’s their way of showing support and giving love.  It would be a disservice to them and yourself to not let them.

Take care of yourself and enjoy the weekend.  I promise the next post will come sooner than 30 days.

  • Mary says:

    Bullet point #3, guys 🙂

    I have Thursdays and Fridays free now, and a lot of flexibility on the other days <3

    • Brian says:

      Thanks Mary. We appreciate that. Carrie’s mom has been a huge help. When she’s feeling up to it, I think just having some company will be good.