We’re All Just Trying to Figure it Out

Work can be a funny place sometimes. It’s a place that you get put together with other people that have different backgrounds and different value systems and are just different people. My place of employment has gone through a huge amount of change over the last year or so. And many of the people who work there have worked with each other for a year or less. For me there is a group of people that I work with almost daily in a leadership role that I have to interact with and there is one person in particular that I just haven’t clicked with. I’m not sure if it’s a communication thing or a misunderstanding of expectations; but in one moment I feel like I’m not helping her when I should be and in other moments I feel like I’m sticking my nose into her business. So today I did what any reasonable person would do. I invited her to lunch.


At lunch I decided to lay it all out. No beating around the bush here. I explained myself. I described how I didn’t think we were communicating very well. And how I wasn’t sure if I was helping or hurting her with her projects. And you know what she did? She laughed! It turned out I was completely wrong. It turns out that she was very grateful for my help in her projects and my contributions have helped move her projects forward. We then talked about family and careers and life in general and had a fantastic lunch. It’s amazing how a little change in perspective can change your view on things.

Three things I learned from this.

Never under estimate how much you don’t know.

If you think you have a problem with another person; take them to lunch. You might be surprise at what you discover.

We are all just trying to figure it out.